Category Archives: aging

End of the Ride

My phone rang as I was exercising at home on the last day of March. The hospice nurse attending to Mom called to suggest I get down there soon. “She’s transitioning.” This is hospice-speak for “her body is breaking down … Continue reading

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The Rollercoaster to Letting Go

  No matter how long I spend on the caregiver road, I am often surprised at how I can still be surprised. Following a hospital stay for sepsis (and a short stay in rehab), I got my mother back to … Continue reading

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Herb’s Eye View

Working on a video project today, I was thinking about some family footage I hadn’t viewed in a long time. I located the tape. This particular VHS cassette holds memories my father recorded between 1985 and 1997. There’s over 2 … Continue reading

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Papered

Having gotten into a groove with Mom’s care over the last few years, I’ve been spared from the kind of ongoing, overwhelming bureaucracy one encounters at the beginning of the caregiving journey. There are tasks to which I’ve had to … Continue reading

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The Gray Line

Mom seemed to be settling nicely into her new home. I was glad she found a boyfriend (and as per her recent pattern, soon dumped him for another). Then her falls started. The first one yielded a bruised hip. X-rays … Continue reading

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Another Moving Experience

For the last three years, my mom has lived in two memory care group homes. When she arrived in her first one, she was at an awkward stage of her illness; she had moderate dementia and profound psychosis. She’d been … Continue reading

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Oh Look, He’s Licking My Toes!

As I headed to my office, I went through my mental checklists. I was grateful that the weather was clear, even if it was frigid. I would go home around noon, and pick up Mom’s fur for her to wear … Continue reading

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