Author Archives: traceysl

About traceysl

Digital Artist, creative technologist, problem-solving lover of life. Having cared for my mother, who died on April 14, 2015 after a long fight with dementia, I have refocused professionally to helping others through my experience. I have started a company called Grand Family Planning to provide unique Family Support Services. In this way, I share my knowledge and give meaning to the tragic turn of my parents' journey through the misery of dementia.

End of the Ride

My phone rang as I was exercising at home on the last day of March. The hospice nurse attending to Mom called to suggest I get down there soon. “She’s transitioning.” This is hospice-speak for “her body is breaking down … Continue reading

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So Gifted

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The Rollercoaster to Letting Go

  No matter how long I spend on the caregiver road, I am often surprised at how I can still be surprised. Following a hospital stay for sepsis (and a short stay in rehab), I got my mother back to … Continue reading

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Herb’s Eye View

Working on a video project today, I was thinking about some family footage I hadn’t viewed in a long time. I located the tape. This particular VHS cassette holds memories my father recorded between 1985 and 1997. There’s over 2 … Continue reading

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7 Habits of Doomed Caregivers

Originally posted on Light of Gray:
Caregivers are often faced with this dilemma, and the self often loses. These days, I am reading the powerful Stephen Covey classic “The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People.” The principles outlined make so…

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Having gotten into a groove with Mom’s care over the last few years, I’ve been spared from the kind of ongoing, overwhelming bureaucracy one encounters at the beginning of the caregiving journey. There are tasks to which I’ve had to … Continue reading

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The Gray Line

Mom seemed to be settling nicely into her new home. I was glad she found a boyfriend (and as per her recent pattern, soon dumped him for another). Then her falls started. The first one yielded a bruised hip. X-rays … Continue reading

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